Whether you’re going out on your 2nd date or your 70th, making the woman you’re with feel desirable is crucially important. Women expend a lot of energy trying to attract and maintain male interest. They buy makeup and clothes; they fret over their appearance and their conversation skills. They work hard for our affection, and all they want in return is for us to acknowledge the effort. Your goal, then, as a man, is to make her feel desirable.
Making her feel desirable will give a woman a sense of security and boost her confidence in your relationship. Better still, when you make her feel desirable, she’ll reward you for it. Nothing turns a woman on like knowing that she’s wanted, so your efforts will pay off. If you want to add an extra spark to your love life, follow these tips and make her feel desirable.
Dress to impress
The first step to making her feel desirable is to make sure you look good. It may seem counter-intuitive, but women appreciate it when you try to look your best for them — it shows a woman that you’re trying to impress her. When you’re going out on a date, put some effort into your appearance. Put on a clean shirt and make sure you’re properly groomed. Try to look and smell your best. Your date will notice, and the longer you’ve been together, the more she’ll appreciate the effort.
Give her specific compliments
Try your hardest to notice when she cuts her hair or buys a new dress. If you’re not sure if the top she’s wearing is new, ask her. Even it’s one she’s had for years, you’ll still get the opportunity to tell her she looks great, and she’ll be flattered that she can still get your attention while wearing her old standards.
Whatever you do, be specific: saying she looks “nice” isn’t going to cut it. Tell her you like her earrings, the color of her dress, whatever; just point out something specific that you like about her appearance. It will make your compliment seem more genuine.
Kiss like you mean it
Early on in the dating process, couples kiss with urgency. They kiss with enthusiasm and wonderment. Early on, kissing is fun. After a while, we often get stuck in a kissing rut, trading in soulful make-out sessions for quick pecks.
Try this: Every so often, instead of the one-second smooch, wrap your arms around her and really kiss her. Kiss her like you mean it. Try for at least 10 seconds. It will absolutely make her feel more desirable, and as an added bonus, it will probably get you laid more often.
Send flirtatious texts
Flirtatious texting is a quick and easy way to make her feel desirable. Whenever you get the chance, whether you’re on your lunch break or waiting to get your hair cut, take a second to shoot her a flirtatious text. Tell her that you can’t stop thinking about her. Compliment her again on her appearance the last time you saw her.
The more serious the two of you are, the more explicit you can be. Just remember, under no circumstances should you be sending women texts that read “how r u?” or “what’s up?” — text like a man, not like a 14-year-old girl.
Give in to temptation
You can also make her feel desirable by initiating sex whenever the thought crosses your mind — even if it seems inconvenient (like when you’re running late for a party). By spontaneously initiating sex, you’re telling the woman in your life that she is irresistible. You’re demonstrating that sex with her is more important than work, sleep or food. You can’t wait until Saturday night: You have to have her now!
Let her catch you staring
Yet another way to make her feel desirable is to let her catch you staring. Obviously, you don’t want to ogle your date like a weirdo, but don’t be afraid to let your eyes linger once in a while. If you’re just getting to know a girl, use this strategy sparingly. Spending too much time talking to her chest during dinner won’t make her feel more desirable, it will make you look like a pervert. Just sneak a peak when she’s not looking. She’ll likely catch you, and so long as there’s no drool running down your chin, she’ll take your attention as a compliment.
The keys to her spark
A little spontaneity is all you need to make her feel desirable. Women (just like men) like to feel appreciated, and with relatively little effort — a text here, a 10-second kiss there — you can ensure that she always knows how much you want her.